So, you have experienced the joys of Domination, Submission and/or Masochism before, but for whatever reason you want to visit a new Mistress. Perhaps your previous Mistress has retired, or moved away or maybe, you had never quite found the right Mistress despite trying several.

Despite 'knowing the ropes', so to speak, you still need to feel reassured that your new Mistress is sane, professional, imaginative and genuine.

On the first session with me, do open yourself fully to the situation. See it as a wonderful opportunity to see if this is the Mistress you have always wanted to find.
Don't live in the past and compare me to the past Dommes. This will do no one any good. I have my own ways and style. If that style is not for you, you can always just move on once more and try again.
Do give me as much information as you can about your likes, dislikes and responses. After all you know from practical experience what works and what doesn't.

Building trust will still take time but the best sessions occur when we get to know and trust each other deeply.

As a novice to the world of BDSM, there will be much which is a little bewildering and strange. Not least of these, is the thought of entrusting your body to a stranger.

Please don't feel ashamed, embarrassed or shy about your secret desires. I  understand and empathise completely.. In time, you will be able to trust your me with all your fantasies, and needs.

You can be sure that you will be safe with me.  I care about all the important issues like cleanliness, safety of equipment, discretion and so forth.  Trust me, if a Domme doesn't care about safety, she will certainly not care about anything else.

 Think about whether she's made you feel that you could build a mental and physical rapport and understanding with her. I try hard to gain information via the application form about what a novice sub is looking for and how I might enjoy introducing him to the pleasures of bdsm.

Does the lady sound sane, sensible, down-to-earth? However much it may be exciting to read about a woman who threatens terrible punishments and humiliating ordeals, it might be that some women lack the necessary self-control and finesse to be a good Domme. Just because she is looking mean, moody and magnificent in a photo ( which may not actually be of her), does not guarantee you a safe, pleasurable and fun time. She might be a half-witted harridan rather than a sexually dominant Goddess. I like to think that I am the latter with a dose of good sense thrown in.

Bear in mind, that both the Domme and the new sub have to be prepared to trust each other. Good negotiation before hand via e-mail or phone will certainly enable both parties to gain a degree of trust and so should be an important part of the pre-session process. It will be nerve-wracking for a newbie to make that leap into the unknown but I do my best to make a novice feel safe.

A good Domme should always be happy to answer legitimate questions about equipment, activities and etiquette. I like to feel that that I make time to talk to genuine prospective submissives. It seems to me that many qualms can be laid to rest with some honest discussion and simple answers.

I say ‘Go for it!’ as there is nothing worse than regretting you lacked courage to try what you desired so much.